Educating Your Children
Find good times to talk to your children when you will not be interrupted by telephones, television or visitors. The best effect will be created if you cover this subject a little at a time, which means you will need several conversations to get all the way through this information. Make very sure that after the first couple of conversations, you come back to the topic again until you have covered all the points included here. (Of course, it is recommended that you follow an education on marijuana with further education on other drugs.)
Explain that children or young adults he knows could start using marijuana. Explain why these people may start, for example:
- He may have been bored or wanted more excitement in his life.
- He may have felt that he would be more popular and accepted by others if he joined others in using marijuana.
- He may have difficulties or weaknesses that drugs seem to make go away for a while, problems like problems talking to the opposite sex, fears, anxieties or depression. Marijuana causes a temporary false euphoria and an unconcern about problems, even if these problems are something important that should be dealt with. Many people using marijuana abandon goals because they no longer seem interesting to them. But when they were sober, they really did want to achieve those educational or life goals.
He (or she) may have personal problems or stresses he does not know how to handle and may see drugs as a way to escape.
If drugs make these problems seem to go away, the child may see value in repeating the abuse again and again, which can finally trigger intense cravings that trap the person into a pattern of drug abuse.
Explain that you want to help your children stay sober, that if they find themselves tempted or if they do use drugs or drink, they should come to you immediately to talk about it. You must be prepared to help without criticism if they are to feel safe coming to you. This is a very important point. Be someone safe to talk to.
Go over the effects of different forms of marijuana, their potencies, and what kinds of damage the drug causes. Invite them to ask questions or voice observations or opinions. Be realistic and don’t exaggerate the harm. If you say one thing and they see something else in life, they may discount everything you say.
Describe the way that peer pressure to use drugs or drink can be very subtle, feeling like nothing more than the desire to join in the fun everyone else seems to be having.
Talk over the way that drug use in movies or television shows or music videos might make marijuana use look glamorous or fun. Point out that most movies featuring weed and other drug usually use omit the consequences. Explain the way that marijuana can seem mild, but for many people who start with this drug, the later result is moral and physical decline, developing into full addiction to marijuana or another drug, legal problems and failure.
Let them know that drug residues are stored in the body and thus the lingering damage of drug use can stay with them for many years. This damage can include effects like cloudy, slow thinking, emotional shutoff, depression, difficulty learning or problem-solving, even lasting personality changes like paranoia or anxiety.
Explain that the use of any drug or alcohol can damage or destroy a person’s ability to achieve their goals, even in one night due to an accident or overdose.
GOALS! Help them envision their goals in life, pointing out that making decisions that help them achieve their goals are sort of antidotes to wanting to use drugs. If they are not sure what goals appeal to them, you may have to give them time to think this point over. Remember to come back to it. Once you know what they want to achieve, compliment and reward them for their achievements leading up to these goals. Remember, however, that your children may go through many changing goals as they grow up. The exact goal, as long as it is positive, is much less important than having a goal of one’s own choice.
Above all, do your best to make it safe for them to talk to you about their friends using drugs or alcohol, and about their own substance use or concerns.
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